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Self-love: Loving Your Mind

Updated: Oct 3, 2023

A Guide to Finding the Hidden Treasures of Self-Appreciation: Loving Your Mind, Loving Your soul, and Loving Your Body.

The mind is a powerful organ. It’s so powerful that a study by the National Science Foundation found that the average human has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day! That’s not even the most important finding.

According to the study, 80% of those thoughts are negative, and 95% of them are repetitive thoughts that we also had the day before. So, 80% of the time, we’re hard on ourselves, and we are known to repeat this harmful practice day in and day out.

It is up to you to break the cycle of inner negativity by loving your mind, and we don’t just mean 20% of the time. Here are a few strategies that can help you begin loving your mind.

Positive Affirmations

Think positive thoughts and speak positive words. Sure, it may be easier said than done, but the more you say something, the more you believe it. When you tell yourself. “I’ll never lose this weight”, “I’ll never be good enough for a promotion”, or “Nothing I do ever works!” after a while, you’ll begin to believe it.

The good news is that by simply adding positive affirmations to your daily routine, you can reverse the cycle! Dr. Carmen Harra, a contributor to HuffPost, published a list of 35 positive affirmations that can provide a great starting point. Try some of these self-love techniques for loving your mind or create some of your own.

Loving Kindness Meditation

Meditation is essential when it comes to loving your mind. Let’s face it; life is noisy! Giving yourself the much needed quiet and serenity of meditation on a daily basis helps to reduce stress and increases your capacity for forgiveness and self-acceptance.

The “Loving-Kindness Meditation” (LKM) is a popular form of meditation that challenges you to focus loving energy towards yourself, those around you, and even towards difficult people in your life.

Editing the Story. Reframing Your Thoughts.

Remember those 60,000 thoughts you are having per day, and how 80% of them are negative? Reframing your thoughts is a tactic that can turn more of your thoughts positive by looking at them from another perspective.

For instance, say you wanted to get back into the dating scene, but you feel like it’s been a while, and you might be “off your game”. A positive way to reframe that thought would be to think, “Yes, it has been a while, but that means I’ll be dating completely new people, in a completely new era. I’m in for some new and exciting experiences!”

Saying positive affirmations daily, meditating, and reframing your thoughts are all steps you can take to help you love your mind. Try these out, and don’t get discouraged. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Take baby steps and continue to build.

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