How to Still Have a Self-Love Summer Before the Fall
- Kezzia
- 17 minutes ago
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Explore various methods to embrace self-love as summer comes to a close
Summer is often thought of as the season of joy, travel, and connection. But what happens when the season feels like it’s slipping away and you haven’t poured into yourself the way you hoped? The truth is, it’s never too late to have a self-love summer—even if fall is around the corner.
As a mental health therapist, I often remind clients that self-love doesn’t depend on timing. You don’t need a perfect plan, a big trip, or endless free time to practice it. Instead, self-love is about intentional choices that remind you of your worth and keep you grounded in care. Here’s how you can still create a summer full of self-love before the season shifts.
1. Redefine What Summer Means to You
Too often, we compare our lives to others on social media. You might feel behind if you didn’t travel to the beach, attend rooftop parties, or check off a “summer bucket list.” But your self-love summer doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s.
Ask yourself: What makes me feel most alive right now? It could be reading on your balcony, trying new recipes, or enjoying long evening walks. Summer is about soaking in warmth, joy, and presence—no matter where you are.
2. Create Simple Rituals
Self-love doesn’t have to mean big gestures. Simple rituals can have a powerful impact. You can:
Start your mornings with five minutes of affirmations.
End the day with gratitude journaling.
Light a candle while you take a bath.
Spend one evening each week offline.
These small practices create consistency, and consistency is what builds true self-love.
3. Reconnect With Your Body
Many women struggle with body image in the summer. Instead of avoiding mirrors or comparing yourself to unrealistic standards, use this time to reconnect with your body in loving ways. Move in ways that feel joyful, not punishing. Stretch on your living room floor. Dance to your favorite playlist. Drink water like it’s an act of care, not just a task.
Your body has carried you through every season—celebrate it.
4. Say “No” Without Guilt
Part of loving yourself is protecting your peace. If you’ve been overcommitting to summer events, it’s okay to step back. A self-love summer may mean fewer obligations and more intentional solitude. Saying “no” allows you to say “yes” to rest, reflection, and joy.
5. Plan for Transition
Self-love doesn’t end when summer does. As fall approaches, think about what practices you’d like to carry forward. Maybe you’ve enjoyed journaling, early morning walks, or reconnecting with friends. Keep those routines alive as you move into the next season.
This helps you avoid the all-or-nothing mindset and reminds you that self-love is not seasonal—it’s lifelong.
6. Surround Yourself With Community
Self-love thrives when you’re supported. Spend time with people who affirm you, whether that’s friends, family, or safe online spaces. If you’ve been isolating, reach out for connection before summer ends. Being seen and valued by others can strengthen your own self-worth.
Final Thoughts
The calendar doesn’t determine your ability to love yourself—you do. Even if summer is almost over, you can still claim this time as yours. Self-love isn’t about vacations, outfits, or trends. It’s about showing up for yourself, honoring your needs, and treating yourself with compassion.
As a black psychotherapist in Brooklyn, I know firsthand how easy it is to put yourself last. But self-love is not a luxury—it’s a necessity. So as summer winds down, give yourself permission to start. Your joy doesn’t expire with the season.
About the author: Kezzia Quintyne-Hilaire is a black female trauma therapist and author of My Self-Love Journal. She uses her expertise in trauma-healing techniques to deliver tailored therapy to enhance the lives of women in New York City. As a woman of color, she is dedicated to offering culturally appropriate therapy and ensuring a safe and inclusive environment for women to embark on their healing journey.
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