Adapting To Change In Your Life
Tips To Help Embrace And Adjust To New Changes
It’s no secret that life comes at us from all different angles. Sometimes the path that we are expecting to take has curves, loops, gaps, goes backward, and sometimes completely changes altogether.
Change is inevitable and learning how to adapt to change can make or break your happiness and overall peace. Sometimes we aren’t in control of what happens to us, but we are always in control of how we react to what comes our way.
Learn from Your Mistakes
Sometimes change happens because we messed up. Start looking at your mistakes as learning experiences. We all make them because we are all human and no one is perfect. While some disappointment might come with making a mistake, realize that what happened has already happened and it’s time to move forward.
See what went wrong, why it went wrong, and pinpoint what can be done so that it doesn’t happen again. This logic can be used at work, with family or friends, and in romantic relationships. Learn to identify red flags, bad moves, and other aspects that led to this mistake. Take a mental note, or even write them down. When the situation or one like it presents itself again, you’ll know how to recognize and defeat it.
Take Baby Steps
When there is a new change in your life, such as a big move, a new job, a new relationship, or a new addition to your family, you have to take baby steps. Everything doesn’t have to, and won’t be done at one time. You will stress yourself out and get overwhelmed trying to figure out everything at once. Instead, learn to enjoy and figure out the experience in small steps.
Think of it as a timeline. Create certain goals that you would like to meet in a certain time frame and write down the steps you’ll need to take to meet those goals. For example, if you are moving to a new city, think about the goals you want to accomplish before you get there. Some might include, purchasing or renting a home, finding a new job, finding a new church, and connecting with a group of friends. Prioritize those goals by importance. Give each goal date or deadline you would like to meet them by. Then under each goal, write down what small steps you’ll need to make that goal a reality.
Ask for Help
Change can be overwhelming and it’s ok to ask for help. As women of color, the world teaches us to figure stuff out on our own. We are taught that asking for help can be a weakness, but in reality, this is far from the truth. When change comes, we don’t always know the answer or the path we should take and that’s okay. Find someone who has had the experience you are going through and seek counsel and advice from their experience.
Sometimes all we need is a little encouragement, guidance, advice, or another form of a helping hand to handle change. Help can also come in the form of mental wellness and learning how to adapt to change from within. In this case, seek a mental health professional that can give you advice on how to process the change mentally, and keep a positive outlook on the change ahead.
Looking for help with adapting to change? KQH Mental Health Counseling is here to help. Contact us today to get started on your journey.